There's a clear benefit in coming to lay down your burdens in a setting conducive to meeting oneself with, and no longer against, the other! Thanks to the role of the third-party psychologist, a secure, assertive voice will be re-mobilized, enabling each relative to experience and overcome the emotions linked to a difficult family experience, whether present or past, sudden, chronic or cyclical, or even projected into a future that still seems "blocked". Opening up to relationships in this way, without suffering (as much), is the greatest gift you can give your family, and yourself...

The systemic approach is depsychiatrizing, detygmatizing, depathologizing, in the sense that the problem is no longer seen as being the other, or oneself for that matter, but as a relational problem for which everyone has a share of responsibility (both in maintaining it and in resolving it), and which must be freed from any sense of guilt or shame. Indeed, it's easy to get caught up in a vicious circle, the issues and motives of which are often largely unconscious, unless and until you take a step back and decentralize, as a systemic clinical approach can do.

Family therapy aims to invite each member of the group to participate actively in the therapeutic process (as far as possible, and with respect for each individual), so that we can first see clearly in vivo what is at stake in the relationship. In fact, the consultation room will very quickly become the place where certain problematic relational modalities are unwillingly reiterated, beyond the rational descriptive-explanatory discourse...

In parallel with this more "diagnostic" and awareness-raising approach, the therapist will attempt from the outset to establish a genuine confidence-building process, to the point of forming a new alliance both with and between family members, in order to mobilize the family system's current or more hidden resources, so that it can henceforth exist and live itself with less suffering (which freezes) but more resilience, in a dynamic and creative way... The aim is to "regain faith" in the family's ability to face a future that can be positively invested in and built, rather than suffered, with renewed serenity (virtuous circle).

The tools used and the state of mind adopted as a family therapist are, of course, drawn from the systemic clinic, but also from hypnosis and brief therapy, non-violent communication and meditative traditions. Therapeutic levers will be activated initially and minimally by the therapist until everyone is able to enter into satisfactory relationships, i.e. no longer of dependence but of interdependence: people, individually and as a system, thus finding their way back to a certain autonomy, enabling them to manage the trials of everyday life by themselves.

Overall, the aim is to move as quickly as possible from "cure" to "prevention".

A sincere commitment to getting better can often bring rapid relief... A clearly defined problem already contains its own solution...